hello.
go to the administrator area. go to Music Collection -> Albums (you must be logged in as Super Administrator)
you'll se a "Preferences" icon next to the "New" button and other. click on it and you'll see the option "Show online player for registered users". This option will probrably be setted as "Yes", but you must click on SAVE button to make parameters take effect.

remember, in the frontend, only registered users can play songs. if you are not logged in, you won't see the player.

about the date.png icon: you can pick it from here:
http://www.joomlamusicsolutions.com/images/icones/date.png

sorry, the icon is not "Preferences" but "Parameters"

did that all and I still see no player just the file icon and a link on the song, i am the superadmin and im looged into the site and i just don't find the player

hum... do you have Flash player enabled on your browser? Dewplayer is a flash player...
if you send me a link, I can take a look at your site and try to find out what's going wrong

www.demsandpubs.com it under the music link at he top called music player

thanks

he, I would need a username and password..
if you want, send theese to me directly on my mail (see "Contact" link at the footer of this site)